I stated in January that I would have time in March to write more and I thought I would of had time earlier but I was wrong. Life has gotten even more busier than I thought it would. But I feel like now things are settling and I feel there is SPACE available for me to write again and be creative. I know I have shared these vows 4 years ago but I haven’t really shared or even thought about how I felt when I said these vows on the day until now. I hope you enjoy this article of the journey I took to writing my vows, speaking them out loud and getting nervous and almost not finishing them. To now making it an annual event to reflect on them.
If you are married do you remember your wedding vows?
If yes,
I’d love to know how you reflect on your day and vows with your partner? If they still match up or have they changed?
If not, try this:
recording an audio of yourself reading them and add some photos to a video and put it all together like this one above for a keepsake.
How I created this vow video
A month after our wedding I was sitting at my computer looking through all the photos the Photographer had sent me and I thought I’d read through my vows and for some reason I decided to record it in an audio to send to Tony.
I turned that audio into a video with photos from our special day and ever since I watch this video EVERY year to remind myself of the promises I made to Tony.
How I easily forget
LIFE isn’t is crazy how we all get caught up in the daily grind and easily pulls us out of the things we deeply desire to stay connected too which is the LOVE we have for our partners.
Things like; bills, work, unexpected expenses (broken water tank) children ever changing and having zero time for yourself never mind your partner.
Honestly having this video is the best SELF RESOURCE to reminding myself of the love and promises I made to Tony. After watching it, it always brings my heart back to that moment of pure joy and love and I remember to let go of what is happening in my life that I think is important but probably really isn’t.
In a loving relationship… it isn’t always about being happy all the time that counts. It counts on how you hold each up when things are down and hard. How you listen to each other when having heavy conversations where you see no end to agreeing on anything. It’s how you finally connect after feeling so disconnected with each other and enjoying that kiss or embrace that just seems to relax your body instantly.
Love and relationships is just like everything else in life “work” you have to keep on working at it for it to grow as you both change and grow. It’s not easy or simple or their an one way method that works for everyone. It is unique and rare to the individuals that choose each other. So I am grateful to have this SELF RESOURCE to help remind me so I never forget.
How I wrote these vows
Tony and I went to Bali a month before the wedding to check things out and confirm the food menu and venue. At the hotel one morning we sat by the pool for an hour and said to each other to sit and write our vows. It honestly just poured out of me in and I didn’t overthink and just wrote because I wanted to keep it real from my heart.
Tony and I didn’t discuss anything about our vows if they were to be short or long. But it turned out wonderfully because he had short vows and I had long vows which suited us perfectly because it is how we are in real life. I can totally express myself through words and Tony always finds it hard to express himself. (He never even asked me to marry as he frozen and the words didn’t come out of his mouth HAHA he just went down on one knee and I knew.)
How I almost didn’t read all of my vows out loud
On day when I read it out loud, after listening to Tony’s 5 second vows…
I realised a minute after reading mine that I probably should of timed it haha because it felt like it was a lot I still had to say.
I got a bit nervous and wondered if I should keep reading them out loud.
There was a moment where I paused and thought should I keep going ???
But then I didn’t know if I stopped if they would make sense to stop too early.
This pause made me even more nervous…
But in the end I kept reading them because I knew it was what I felt and I wanted him and everyone to know how much I loved him and how much I was happy to make this commitment to him.
I am sharing My Vow video today with all of you on Substack as some of you might of known me then and some of you might not of known me and never seen this.
Either way… VOWS are not usually shared in public forums as they are personal and yes they are but I love sharing any kind of love with all of you. Spreading love is all I ever hope to always do through my written articles.
And these words I wrote to Tony all those years ago are still some of the most important and favourite words I have ever written and spoken out loud. I am so proud that I got through my vows and didn’t let fear of being seen of saying too much ruin my important day.
Writing vows is just another form of being creative as you can make them so personal to your relationship specifically as I know that my vows wouldn’t make sense to anyone other than me and Tony. So if you find yourself writing vows shut out all the external noise and just write from the heart and speak them proudly on your big day as your partner will LOVE them no matter how long or short they are!
Love Kim
PS. remember to review them as often as required to help nourish the love and connection you have for your partner.
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